Showing posts with label compassion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label compassion. Show all posts

Monday, April 29, 2024

Compassion and Reward

“Be careful not to perform your righteous acts before men to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven…But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” (Matthew 6:1, 3-4)

Be careful not to perform supposed godly acts with manufactured and false compassion so that people will perceive you as righteous. If you act with false godliness, you will have no spiritual reward from your Heavenly Father. Your reward will be people's praise.

What did Jesus mean when He said, “Do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing?” Your left hand, in some Jewish teachings, denotes weaknesses. The right had, in some Jewish teachings, denote strengths. Jesus’ phrase here means do not let your baser intentions and emotions attach themselves to your intention of giving to help someone in need. Instead, let honorable intentions and emotions be your motivator. When honest intentions to motivate people occur, the glory and honor go to God. When baser intentions motivate giving charity, the desire of the person is to take the honor and glory for himself, not God. Do charity secretly, to avoid people putting you on a pedestal and not to become prideful. Instead, give honor to God, who told you to help the person and gave you the means to help him.

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus warned against seeking greatness and receiving adoration. People should focus on God. Instead of seeking personal adoration, Jesus taught people to give secretly. Help a person discreetly. The heavenly Father, who sees what someone does in secret, will reward him. God’s rewards are heavenly and eternal.

Jesus taught how to give:

·       In secret, privately

·       With righteous intentions, to help the person and not highlight oneself.

·       Not to grow one’s reputation or receive honor.

Why should you give this way?

·       If you act intending to make yourself known as great, then earthly honor is all you will receive.

·       If you act in compassion, which comes from God and is good, and you shine the resultant thanks towards God, the One who gives all good things, then other people see God more than oneself and God receives the honor.

What will occur if you act godly?

·       God will reward you. Jesus doesn’t say in verses one through four what the reward will be. Verses thirty-three and thirty-four do. People, God’s creation made in His image, who revere and follow Him, can be certain that their good God will provide for their needs. Remember, God is always faithful to His word.

·       The reward for God’s people is His care now and forever. This promise is for everyone who believes in Jesus as their Savior and Lord.

Jesus concludes Matthew 6 with a promise. This promise tells of the reward for those who “do not let their left hand know what their right hand is doing.” He said,

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things (your needs) will be provided to you. So do not worry about tomorrow” (Matthew 6:33-34a).

Do godly acts of charity to help a person and honor God. God gives you the motivation in your new heart. He gives you the resources to help the person. Understand that God will provide all your needs, so follow as He leads you to love others, just as He loved and loves you.

 

Thursday, August 24, 2023

This Mind

And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.”

— Ephesians 4:32

 

“Kind” is from a Greek word meaning kind, good, benevolent, not harsh, sharp, or burdensome. Compassionate means tender-hearted and empathetic. 

 

So be benevolent and not sharp and be tender-hearted and empathetic to each other. Freely give undeserved grace and pardon, just as God gave you grace and pardon when you didn’t deserve it.

 

Who of us hasn’t needed mercy and empathy? Who hasn’t needed kind words and forgiveness? Who hasn’t been grateful when we’ve received such love and kindness? Remember the relief you felt. Remember the weight of your burden being lifted. Remember the engulfing love that wrapped around you. 

 

Go. Be compassionate. Give love. Be kind. Give undeserved forgiveness. Even to the people who curse you and make your life hard. Remember, God graciously gave you mercy and undeserved forgiveness and love. “Have this mind in you that was also in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:5-11).

Sunday, August 13, 2023

Intense Compassion

 

Just as a father loves his children, so the Lord loves those who fear and worship Him with awe-filled respect and deepest reverence.

— Psalms 103:13

 

The psalmist wrote, “Like a human father loves and is compassionate to his children, so the Lord has complete and extreme compassion  for the people who revere and respect Him.”

 

Notice the verb used by the psalmist in both parts of the simile. Yet, the intensity of compassion/love is different. The psalmist also said how much compassion God has for His people. 

 

Whereas a mortal father can only love and be compassionate up to the amount of what a mortal is capable of, Almighty and perfect God can give the ultimate amount of compassion and love. God is limitless just as is His attributes. God is so grand that He’s undefinable in human words. 

 

The amount of compassion God has for His people is beyond human comprehension, so the psalmist included in the original Hebrew writing the Pi’el form of compassion. Pi’el expresses intensive action. The father has compassion for his children, but that compassion is limited. God has compassion towards His people that is limitless. People cannot comprehend it. The psalmist’s best way to describe God’s compassion was by saying it was intensive; God’s compassion towards His people is complete, is perfect—nothing is lacking in it.

 

Can any of us say our compassion/love for others, our family, and our children is complete—perfect, lacks nothing? We can only give what our limited, fallible hearts can give. God’s heart toward His people is limitless; it’s bound only by His infinite, undefinable being.

 

Notice also, God’s compassion is aimed toward specific people in this simile. The father’s compassion is aimed at his children. God’s compassion is felt and given to “His people.” The verse actually says He aims His compassion toward “those who fear/revere Him.” Who are the people who revere God? To know that, we need to understand what “fear/revere” means with regard to God. 

 

Revere means to be in such great awe and respect of someone that you worship that person. Each of us has at one time in our lives looked up to people. For some, that person was a family member, for others it was someone famous—an actor, musician, scientist, explorer, doctor, preacher, politician, etc. The list could go on. Who did you admire so much that you wanted to be like him/her? Did you go so far in your awe and admiration of that person that you idolized him/her? That is worship of a person. Take that understanding farther and apply those feelings of awe and respect to God. Intensify those feelings you felt for another person so that they transition from admiration of a fallible and limited human to reverence of infallible and limitless God. That intensification involves more than just your head, heart, and body. It includes your spirit. Revering God requires your whole being. It’s the willing and intentional giving of your whole being back to the One you recognize as the Almighty—the One who creates, lives, sustains, saves, protects, leads, is, has always been, and will always be existent. Revering God is more than mental assent of His existence. It’s more than emotional acknowledgment of His stirring your being. Revering God is more than bending on knees before Him or placing an offering in the offering plate. Revering is all these and spiritually confessing God is the one and only Lord, Master, and Savior of your life by giving yourself wholly to Him as the ultimate offering and sacrifice you can give to the Ultimate One. What more can we give than our whole being? Oswald Chambers calls this giving our “utmost for His highest.” 

 

God gives His complete/perfect and intensive compassion to the people who revere Him. He has complete/perfect and intensive compassion for and toward those people who willingly and wholly give themselves—hearts, minds, bodies, and spirits—to Him out of love and awe and reverence as the ultimate offering that they can give .

 

The psalmist’s simile could make you smile now that you realize the two sides of it are unequal. God’s love and compassion does not match that of a father’s compassion for His child. God’s love and compassion are incomparable to anything earthly. The psalmist had nothing with which to compare it than to the greatest compassion a human can feel, that of the care and love of one’s own child. In this, he became similar to God. The father co-created his child with God. God created all people. The father can understand the intensity of feeling for his child like that of God’s for His creation—people. 

 

That intensity of heart, mind, and body to do anything necessary to care for his child is similar to God’s care for people. God loves us so intensely that He did and does everything to care for us. He gives of all He is and of what He has at His disposal that is necessary to care for the hearts, minds, bodies, and spirits of people. Notice the difference. A human father cannot affect the spirit of his child. Only God can call to, convict, save, and renew a child’s spirit. When that child, no matter the age, whether 2-102, confesses absolute faith in Jesus, God’s Son, and confesses his/her sins, that child becomes part of the group of people “who fear Him,” as the psalmist said in Psalm 103:13. That person becomes a child of God. Along with being forgiven and having eternal life with God, that person will be made complete gradually over time so that the father or mother of a child will gradually show the level of compassion God aims towards His people.

 

This simile has unequal sides, but it’s purpose helps us understand the intensity and completeness of God’s compassion. It should lead us to ask ourselves questions. Foremost of these questions is, do you revere God and are you counted as one on whom God aims His intensive and complete compassion? In other words, are you a child of God, one of His people? Secondly, how’s your compassion for your child? God’s compassion was compared to that of a father’s by the psalmist. Really, though, our compassion should be compared to God’s. God’s compassion is the standard and goal. Our intensity of compassion should increase as our offering of our heart, mind, body, and spirit increases. Is your offering to God increasing? Or, did you only give a sacrifice and offering at the point you were saved? 

 

This simile will always be unequal. Yet, as we give more of our being to God each day and as we receive more from Him each day, our compassion will become more complete. God will perfect us more each day we seek Him and grow closer to Him. What of yourself have you offered to God today?

Thursday, July 5, 2018

Inception: Working with Refugees, Stage One


The first two articles of this refugee ministry series are called Warp and Weft of Life[1] and Conception: Empowering to Serve Refugees[2]. In them, we learned who refugees are, how many refugees are in the world, and that they come from a multitude of countries around the globe. For faith-based work with refugees, we learned prayer must enwrap any program, and God must be the One who gives the vision so steadfastness occurs when days are long, times are hard, and refugee stories are painful to hear.


With this article, we begin to understand how to start a ministry to refugees. The process of starting a ministry to refugees includes five or six stages. This article will introduce stage one-Getting to Know Refugees-of Inception: Working with Refugees. Please remember, this article is not written from an authoritative point of view, but from an experiential basis. Circumstances differ around the world and different methods, ministries, refugee nationalities, and workers will arise that need consideration when beginning and maintaining any ministry to refugees.

Stage One: Getting to Know the Refugees

God puts within all people a heart to care for others. This innate compassion is part of being created in His image. Because of this compassion for other people, we often want to help when difficulties arise in life. This is normal. First, though, we should seek God’s will to determine if we should help this person/people. After that, we must meet them to determine their real needs, not assuming we know their needs. These things comprise the subject of stage one of Inception: Working with Refugees. Within stage one are five steps with several sub-steps.

Prayer

If you are a Christian, prayer should happen before, during, and after any task. It should lead, correct, inspire, and encourage you. Because prayer with God is about relationship, this step should be natural to all Christians, just as breathing is natural. Prayer at the beginning of a task or ministry should seek to bring God into our minds and our lives as the leader of the ministry. It leads us to remember from Whom we received our innate compassion and that we received God’s compassion when Jesus died on the cross. Prayer also reminds us from Whom we get resources for ministry, Who protects us while we minister, and in Whose strength we work. Without prayer infusing the ministry to which God calls us, we grow weary, lack mental strength to continue the task, become cynical, seek glory for ourselves, and leave God out of the equation. Because of these and much more, prayer must undergird any ministry we seek to do.

The People

From the article, Conception: Empowering to Serve Refugees, we learned through prayer God will open our eyes to the people to whom He wants us to minister. For this article series, we speak about serving refugees. In a world where refugees come from around the globe, we should decide which refugees are to be the focus of the ministry in which we seek to develop and run.

Why differentiate? Because each people group has a different language, culture, history, and religion. What works with one group may not work with another. For example, many more Somalians than Congolese are Muslim. This would require different English curriculum if you were thinking of using Bible-based English lessons. Additionally, many Somalian women have never been to school so you would need to start with Pre-school or Kindergarten level language classes that tell you what an A or B is. For most Congolese, learning the alphabet first is redundant because most of them attended school during their lives.

Besides this, working with refugees requires knowing their cultures. In some cultures, women absolutely do not teach men. Doing so would disrespect the stature of the man. Besides this, in some cultures, women cannot wear pants or dresses/skirts above mid-calf or show their upper arms and shoulders. These things are indecent to them in certain cultures.

Because of these and other things, we must seek the refugees to whom God calls us to minister. At the start, if you are doing an ESL (English Second Language) course, differentiating among refugee cultures is not as important. What is important is giving them a life skill that will enable them to get jobs. Yet, quickly different cultures, religions, and languages will cause you to need to adapt even the basic English curriculum. It will make you return to God to determine upon which people group you need to focus.

Seeking from God the people group you need to focus on is important. Working with refugees is an admirable thing. Maintaining communion with God so He can continue to lead you in ministry is most important. He may have called you to work with a specific refugee people group, not to refugees in general. Stay in constant contact with God during your ministry with Him.

The Needs

This part of stage one is very important. To have a desire to help people and to follow through with that is admirable. To do what is necessary, not what you think is needed, is paramount. Good deeds to the wrong person or people group is not helpful. To impact refugees practically requires knowing them. Getting to know them requires conversation and investment in their lives. It means speaking to them, gleaning information, and coming to care about them as individuals. Learning about these refugees’ history is important, too.

Talking to refugees has four main purposes-to build trust, to learn of their real needs, to learn to love them, and to glean from them which people in the community holds certain roles. Conversing with refugees is the first and biggest part of working with refugees. Through it you want to ascertain at least fifteen things.

1.      Build trust by asking about:
a.       their family, interests, religious background
b.      where they live at that point in time
c.       their contact details
d.      their country of origin
e.       the languages they speak
f.        what life was like in their home country and the job they had there
g.      their family still in their home country
h.      why they left their home country
i.        how living in their host country has been for them so far
2.      What are their perceptions of their needs?
3.      What you your perceptions of their needs?
4.      What is a good day and time of the week to meet with each one and the people as a group?
5.      Determine who is the gatekeeper of the groups of refugees. Who are the leaders whose permission or acceptance of you and the program you are doing will affect attendance and benefit to the refugees you seek to help?
6.      Determine who is the activist of the group of refugees you seek to help. They, too, determine if people will attend the ministries you will offer. This activist will be a voice for the people and for the ministry you will give their community.
7.      Determine who is the caretaker of the community. This person is the one who cares for the wellbeing of each person and the group. They have no agenda in the group other than the care of the people. This person wants what is best for their people, not what is easiest or most expedient. The caregiver, gatekeeper/chief, and activist can be a supporter of the work you seek to do and receive training to do it.

Once you build trust within the community, people will realize you actually care for them and are not necessarily seeking numbers to qualify your search for legitimacy and funding. The refugees will then accept you and bring their real needs and their sorrows to you. They will begin to see you as family. Once you get to know the people from their conversations, you can research their countries and people groups, and learn their historical background. Doing all this enables you to become interwoven in their community. You become warp to their weft, and then you can minister more usefully to them. At this point, too, you can give a bolder testimony about Jesus to them and they will listen attentively because you have shown you truly care about them.

Prayer

After speaking to the refugees, gaining their trust, getting to know their needs, and getting to know their leaders, you must return to prayer. With the information you gleaned from the refugees, you bring their needs before God asking Him to tell you if these people and their needs are the ones to whom He calls you to work. Added to this, you ask God to tell you where you should begin work with the refugees. What is truly their greatest need at the moment? Where do you get help? Where can you get funding for the ministry needs? Where do you set up the ministry in the community? God knows the answers to each of these questions already. He waits for you to turn to Him and seek His will. By doing this, you acknowledge Him as Lord who knows all and you as finite in knowledge. You recognize your dependence upon God.

In seeking the Lord in prayer at the end of this stage, the person who seeks to minister to refugees deepens his or her relationship with God, the One who sustains, emboldens, upholds, and enables each person. Ministering with the Lord can deepen one’s relationship with Him. Without prayer, the ministry can draw you away from God. Praying before, during, and after each stage deepens a person’s relationship with God and acknowledges Him as Lord of his or her life and the ministry.

Conclusion

When considering starting a ministry to refugees, one must seek the Lord’s will first. That is paramount. After that beginning, conversations with refugees in the community are very important. By doing this, you will establish trust by developing a relationship with them. When you speak with them, you will get to know the refugees-their history and needs-and then will know how best to help them. Added to this, when you talk with them and develop a relationship with them, you show your love for them as people, not just as a group of exiles. Doing this enables you to put yourself in their shoes and your compassion becomes empathy. This kind of relationship is what God wants from us. While talking with the refugees, you can find out who the gatekeeper/chief, activist, and caretaker of that group are, and for the whole population of refugees in your community. You will be able to decide if you can offer ministry to all refugees or if you must divide them geographically, politically, linguistically, or theologically.

Remember, more than any of these steps or stages is the need for you, for each of us in ministry with the Lord, to seek God and His will. He knows what is best for each situation, each people group, and each person. God will guide you to the ministry the people need. He will open doors for funding, volunteers, and other resources when you continue a close relationship with Him. Remember, growing in relationship with God is the most important part of our lives. Working in ministry with Him is a way to grow in our relationship with Him. Our obedience to God’s commands and teachings shows our love for Him. No matter what else you do in ministry, prayer must be paramount. It must enwrap the ministry from beginning to end and be interwoven throughout each step and stage.

Thursday, May 10, 2018

In Their Words



What colors and sounds come to mind when you think of fleeing your country in fear and desperation? Are brilliant yellows and glorious greens in your mind’s eye showing you sunny days and prosperity? Do lilting laughter and babbling birds tickle your mind’s ear? Perhaps your mind sees black, gray, and brown making you think of destruction, despair, and decay? Possibly crying and wailing resound like a percussive peal of bells in your mind’s ear from death by starvation or gun fire.

The latter are not the sounds or colors most people hear daily. They are unfathomable to millions of people. People of the world cannot imagine living through these daily cries of horror, pain, and desolation. They cannot comprehend this myriad of mental and physical assaults each day. Still, 20+ million people daily experience this life.

The life of refugees and asylum-seekers occurs because of conflict and environmental disaster. Conflict most often is politically based. It arises from prejudice, greed, selfishness, hatred, and fear. Environmental disasters such as earthquakes, droughts, volcanic eruptions, hurricanes, and fires cause people to leave their homes and countries, too. For people who exist in these situations, no end to despair seems to exist. With nothing to lose, they flee within moments, days, or weeks of the conflict or natural disaster. Often, they leave with only the clothes they wear, thinking primarily of saving their lives.

These stories do not arise only from one region of the world. They come from around the globe. The media in first-world countries portray most refugees coming from war-torn areas in the Middle-East and in north Africa where religious or political strife causes fear, persecution, and death. Refugees and asylum-seekers come from around the world. After the hurricane in Puerto Rico, the floods in Bangladesh, the tsunami in Indonesia, and other places where catastrophes occurred, people left destitute and un-aided sought rest and help in other countries. They hoped one day to go home.
The stories below form the first of several articles in this series that will reveal to us daily experiences of refugees and asylum-seekers. Refugees wrote their stories in answer to three questions. The names used are pseudonyms to protect the refugees. This interviewer only made grammatical changes to their written answers. The refugees in this article are from central African nations. Three questions were asked of each refugee and asylum-seeker. They were as follows.
1.      What was life like in your home country?
2.      What made you decide to leave your country?
3.      What has life been like in your host/adopted country?

Interviews

Jean Baptiste

Question 1: What was life like in your home country?

Life in Burundi was good before 1993, but after that became worse because of the war.

Question 2: What made you decide to leave your country?

In 2004, I started university studying electrical engineering. By the time I was into my second year there, the rebels came to my school and were forcing everyone to follow them and join the army. I left Burundi and went to Tanzania where I lived in the bush without spare clothes and food. By God’s grace, I managed to communicate with a Tanzanian person and explained to him where and how I was suffering in the bush. He helped me a lot to escape the army by hiding me in his and friends’ houses. They told me someone could take me to Malawi where I could get a small job.

I left Tanzania with no government papers. They helped me cross the border. It was not easy for me in Malawi. Communication was difficult. I sold water and peanuts for food. By God’s mercy, I managed to get a small amount of money. I was living on the street. I met some guys who were going to Mozambique, and I decided to follow them. Mozambique was worse for me because of the Portuguese language.

Question 3: What has life been like in your host/adopted country?

In 2007, I moved to South Africa. I was sleeping under the bridge for three months in the cold. To survive, I begged on the trains. I managed to get a job as a car guard and I was happy to get a small bit of money. [A car guard is an informal guard that sometimes receives tips from the car owners while they shop.] From there I started to communicate with my parents via letters. In their minds, they thought I was no longer on this earth. I did an electrical course and got married. God blessed me with 3 kids. I have a family and friends. I have spiritual parents who are local Baptist missionaries. I am a servant of God as a pastor for other people from Burundi at a Methodist church. I don’t have a job that pays and life has been hard physically and spiritually. I struggle to get government papers from home affairs, first refugee status then work permit. That is the thing that makes me worry most in South Africa. Without papers, I cannot work a regular job.

Alleyah

Question 1: What was life like in your home country?

In my country of Burundi, my life was wonderful. I was a student at university majoring in economics, but after that the war started and everything was ruined.

Question 2: What made you decide to leave your country?

I decided to leave my country because there was no peace. People killed each other because of insecurity. After my brother was killed, I decided to leave my country.

 

Question 3: What has life been like in your host/adopted country?

Oooh, my life here in South Africa is very, very difficult. I have no job. To get a job is a very difficult thing. Sometimes if you get a job, they pay you a small amount because you are a foreigner. Some companies don’t want to hire foreigners so that makes it difficult to get money for rent and food. It is difficult to get the government documents so we can stay here legally and work. Because of these things, we have so many problems here in South Africa.

Pierre

Question 1: What was life like in your home country?

Life is difficult in my home country. Something which makes life very difficult in my home country is poverty. It is not easy to get a job because there are not enough companies where many people can get a job. Even when you get a job, the money you get per day is not enough for all you need. Per day, they pay $1. Imagine if you have a family, how you will be able to feed your family with $1 a day.

Another thing that makes life very difficult is insecurity. Since 1993, there has been no peace in our country because of war. All presidents want to reign many years. That makes the political opposers (rebels) fight to chase away a president who doesn’t want to share the power with others.
The country's economic problems come down to these problems-poverty, insecurity, and war. It's why so many people flee from our country to South Africa where they think life might be very good.

Question 2: What made you decide to leave your country?

In 1994, I left my home country to go to Tanzania, my neighbor country, where I spent fifteen years as a refugee because of war. I started studying in primary school and finished secondary school where I got my degree.

Life was not good because I could have no job in the refugee camp. We were not even allowed to go out of camp to search for something to eat. Although the situation was not good in my home country, I decided to go back home with my brother.

When I returned home in 2009, I got a job in the government because UNHCR (United Nations High Council on Refugees) helped the refugees who repatriated to their country. To get a job in my home country, you have to be a member of the political party that is in power. They forced me to support them but I refused because I remembered what happened in the 1993 war when ten people in my family died because they were in a political party.

After four years back there, I was teaching and they (the president’s supporters) told me to join in their political party in order to make all people love and support their party. It was the president's second round. I refused again to join their party. What happened? They sent five policemen in the night to catch me at me home and they hid me for seven days in an unknown place. My family weren’t happy and went out to search for me, but they didn't find me. The policemen hit me and did anything they wanted.

After seven days, they took me to court and accused me of having five guns in my house. They said I trained people to fight against the government. Immediately, they took me to jail where I stayed imprisoned for seven months. When they called me to court three times, I explained what happened to me and how they did violence to me. The judges listened to me and decided to release me from jail. The government allowed me to continue my daily job with no problem. I continued my job as well as I did before.

Unfortunately, I received three letters warning me to stop teaching otherwise they would cut my head off. I didn't stop teaching. After that, I heard men knock on the door during the night. They wanted to kill me so I opened my back window silently and ran away. I walked all night climbing up the highland to save my life. I passed through Tanzania, Malawi, Zambia, and Zimbabwe. That’s why I am now in South Africa.

Question 3: What has life been like in your host/adopted country?

My life was not good in my adopted/host country. One year ago, I spent six months without a job. I was not able to pay rent or get money to buy food. I was asking help from everybody, especially Christians in the church, so I could survive.

Another problem I was I was not able to speak English. That means my communication with the citizens of this country was not good. Because of what happened to me in my home country-the violence done to me, I am not able to do hard, physical jobs because my health is not good. I work temporary, part-time to keep my life/health good. Even when I get a job, I only get enough money to pay rent. Sometimes I don’t have money to pay rent and buy food because I am not permanently employed. I am worried about my future!

Conclusion

These refugee stories come from people who fled two countries. They come from at least two different faith backgrounds. Persecution does not occur against only one faith system. Prejudice abounds. In these three stories, each of the people-men and woman-stated war, political corruption, greed, and fear were the motivators for leaving their home countries. They loved their home nations. Each of these refugees/asylum-seekers was in a university or planned to attend one. They were intelligent, contributing members of society, yet they were persecuted.

Race, religion, and intelligence did not define who would experience persecution in these people’s circumstances. Fear by one political group of another caused persecution in these three lives and the lives of their families. Jean Baptiste, Alleyah, and Pierre want to return to their home countries, but for now they cannot. Fear of persecution and death by the reigning political party cautions their decision-making.

How should we respond to these three people and others like them who fled their countries to protect their lives? How do many people respond to them? We must remember, refugees and asylum-seekers are not a “them.” They are “us”, humans seeking safety for them and their families, hope for the future, peace, and a chance to contribute positively in the world. Refugees, generally, are not a threat, but a people needing help because of horrific circumstances before and appalling situations afterwards. What we do when they seek to preserve their lives determines what most defines us. Will we be compassionate or merciless while striving for our own self-interests? Our self-interests should be united with our care of all people. When we do not care, we withhold and suppress one of the greatest parts of who we are, a part of what makes us human and not an animal. Compassion, care, mercy, and love comprise the greatest part of our human-ness.

When a person or people group faces mass conflict that seeks to destroy lives for personal gain, prejudice, or power, people should respond by giving assistance and relief. When natural disasters cause people to face starvation, thirst, disease, and exposure to severe weather elements, humanity should respond with compassion, mercy, and love in tangible ways. Instead of these catastrophic experiences dividing humanity into “us” and “them,” it should cause a greater bond to occur and create a “we” who unite for our brothers and sisters. Whether you are Christian or follow another faith system, we each understand these words written by Paul. What he said is written in our beings; we each seek love and relationship. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, & 13 [NASB],

Love is patient.
Love is kind and is not jealous.
Love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly.
It does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
But now faith, hope, love, abide these three, but the greatest of these is love.

Thursday, April 26, 2018

Warp and Weft of Life





An insistent heavy-handed hammering startles you awake as your heart jumps to the beat of the battering of the door. “They’ve finally come, we must flee now!” you realize. You wake your wife and the two of you go to wake the children. “Wake up,” you whisper. “Put your shoes on. Leave everything else. We must go.” you tell them. As you tie the last lace, you hear the door being broken to shards and you run out the back holding your children’s hands while scrabbling through bushes into the darkness with your heart pulsing fear into every sinew of your body.

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This story is just one reality of millions of refugees each year. They flee because of fear. Determined to live, they run to their country’s border seeking release from fear not knowing what lies on the other side, but hoping for something better…a future of peace and hope for their children and themselves.
We hear and see news reports about refugees. We agree they need to get out of their countries where tyrants rule, rebels kill, and genocide abounds because of greed, corruption, and prejudice, where persecution is a daily reality. In theory, we stand up and cry out they must be allowed to live in other countries to have personal freedom and rights. Yet, when refugees enter our country, many hundreds or thousands of people speak hatefully about them and/or physically confront them. Why? Because of fear-fear of having their jobs taken, of their cultures changing, of violence from the refugees’ countries entering their own country, and of letting other worldviews change their home country. Still, there are some people who see and hear about refugees and want and do help, but those numbers are small. Let’s consider who refugees are, what they come from, what their needs are, how we can help them, and how we truly can accept them. Let’s see their humanity, hear their stories, grieve their losses with them, listen to their hopes, help them become interdependent with the citizens of their adopted country, and see how we, too, can be interdependent with them, realizing that is not a bad thing.

Who are Refugees and Asylum Seekers

Before we go any further, we must understand a couple terms. According to the United Nations High Council on Refugees (UNHCR), 

A refugee is someone who has been forced to flee his or her country because of persecution, war, or violence. A refugee has a well-founded fear of persecution because of race, religion, nationality, political opinion or membership in a particular social group. Most likely, they cannot return home or are afraid to do so.
-[https://www.unrefugees.org/refugee-facts/what-is-a-refugee/] 

An asylum seeker is a refugee who asks a government officially for refugee status in their country. This refugee fled then filed papers requesting sanctuary because of fear of living in his or her own nation. This asylum seeker is a person who waits for the government of the country of refuge to process his or her official request for refuge, sanctuary. For purposes of this article, we will call this population of people refugees, too.


At the end of 2016, the UNHCR recorded 65.6 million people of concern and 20, 013, 996 refugees and asylum seekers. These 20+ million refugees (and asylum seekers) are not just from the Middle East [https://www.unrefugees.org/refugee-facts/statistics].  “One in every 113 people globally is a refugee,” the UNHCR says. A list of the nations of origin for these millions of refugees from the UNHCR includes, but is not limited to, the below countries listed. As you can see from the chart below, refugees come from across the globe, not just the Middle East. This data and more can be read on this website- http://www.unhcr.org/globaltrends2016/
                                                               
Afghanistan
Iran
Pakistan
China
Iraq
Armenia
Azerbaijan
Bangladesh
Belarus
Benin
Bolivia
Burkina Faso
Tunisia
Uganda
Gambia
Burundi
Central African Republic
Chad
Congo
Cote d’Ivoire
Chile
Columbia
Costa Rica
Cuba
Liberia
Czech Republic
Djibouti
Egypt
El Salvador
Libya
Democratic Republic of the Congo
Serbia & Kosovo
Tajikistan
Yemen
Western Sahara
Eritrea
Ethiopia
Guinea
Bosnia & Herzegovina
Cameroon
Georgia
Lebanon
Syria
Turkey
Ukraine
Ghana
Guatemala
Hungary
India
Israel
Jordan
Kazakhstan
Kenya
Kuwait
Kyrgyzstan
Malaysia
Maldives
Mauritius
Mexico
Mongolia
Mali
Mauritania
Mongolia
Montenegro
Niger
Mali
Morocco
Nigeria
Palestine
Paraguay
Mozambique
Myanmar
Nepal
New Zealand
Thailand
Peru
Philippines
Romania
Russian Federation
Rwanda
Senegal
Sierra Leone
Slovakia
Somalia
South Africa
South Sudan
Sri Lanka
Sudan
Turkmenistan
Lithuania
Syria
Honduras
Haiti
Guinea
Guinea-Bissau
Tibet
Timor-Leste
Togo
Tonga
Tunisia
Uganda
Ukraine
UAE
United Kingdom
United States
Uzbekistan
Venezuela
Vietnam
Zambia
Zimbabwe
               

What Are Their Stories


Each person and family has their own story. Though it may sound like each person has the same story and we want to shut them off not really hearing them, we must realize telling their story is part of their healing. It also serves to educate and humanize the listener. By telling his or her story, not only is the refugee releasing some of his or her pain and realizing someone cares, but the listener grows in knowledge of world issues and in compassion, care, and love for people besides his or her own community, state, and nation. A broader worldview occurs. A connection happens between people when they share and listen to each other’s stories. Compassion increases and mutual, healthy interdependence eventually occurs.


Some refugee stories reveal torture and death of family and friends for voting against the country’s current president. Other stories expose racial and tribal genocide, called ethnic cleansing. Often these stories declare the usurpation of the rights of females by marrying children to older men. Countless recollections retell the subjugation of women by men in a myriad of ways-beatings, starvation, slavery, physical detention, rape, and mutilation. Men, women, and children are captured and sold into slavery of hard labor or prostitution. Of the 20+ million refugees and asylum seekers, there are 20+ million heinous stories. This article is not to tell each story, but to make you aware of them. Another article will detail a handful of these stories.

The Refugees’ Needs

As mentioned earlier, often the first need for any refugee is to tell his or her story. It begins the healing process for the person and, if heard, begins to open the door of aid by the listener as compassion grows. However, we the listener must not jump to the conclusion we know what the refugee needs. The most humane thing we can do at the start of our relationship with a refugee, along with listening to his or her story, is ask him or her what the family’s biggest need is. When we assume to know and jump to our own conclusions, we steal the little power the refugee family has. Instead, empower the refugee by listening to his or her story and understanding his or her greatest need.


Refugees will express needs for many areas of their lives-physical, mental and emotional, academic, legal, and spiritual. Physical needs could be food, drink, clothing, housing, and medical help. Mental and emotional needs might be counseling for trauma. Academic needs may be for academic testing for learning delays, determination of educational level, getting children into school, and skills training for adults. Legal aid will be an area of need refugees will have to rightfully live in their host country or to get documents from their embassy they fled without taking. Walking with them through the legal steps to receive sanctuary in their host country is paramount for a refugee otherwise that country could deport him or her to his or her country of origin/persecution. Spiritual need perhaps includes counseling. It may also include answering questions about your faith because you made an impression on them with your care, compassion, and love. It’s also possible the refugee experienced persecution before because he or she did not convert to a particular faith and has questions about different faith systems including your own. Needs are varied and many. A person who seeks to help refugees should allow the refugee to express his or her felt needs. The person who helps refugees should seek to help with the perceived needs spoken of as well as discuss other needs the refugee may have not yet considered. 

What Should Be Our Response

The juxtaposition of what should be our response to refugees in our country and what is often the response of people to an influx of “aliens” is often glaringly apparent. Too often refugees encounter derision, hate, and persecution in their adopted nation of refuge. They feel unwanted and hated though they did nothing to warrant these feelings, and resultant actions and words. Instead of this response to refugees, we as human beings should empathize realizing how we would feel living through persecution-fearing enough for one’s own life to flee hoping to save one’s family members’ lives. The human response of care and compassion for people whose lives are at stake should arise within everyone who hears and knows about refugees. This reaction is part of each person’s inner character. A maxim taught to most children is to do to other people what you would want them to do to you. This sums up the innate human reaction of one person for another person.

Besides this innate response to people in crisis, most faith systems teach and command their adherents to give aid to the “alien/foreigner”, the sick, and the downtrodden. For the Christian, this is paramount. Both Old and New Testaments tell what God told His people to do about refugees (aliens/sojourners), the sick, orphans, widows, the broken-hearted, and the downtrodden. Exodus 22:21 and 23:9 reminds the Jews and, later, Christians we all have been sojourners/aliens among foreign people. The Jews were sojourners in Egypt; they were aliens.

Additionally, throughout time, every person alienates him- or herself from God because of his or her willful, sinful actions until he or she accepts Jesus Christ as his or her Lord. Before that acceptance of Jesus, every person can then be considered an alien. God took care of the Jews and takes care of Christians and non-Christians alike, not because of what they could/can pay or do for Him, but because of His love, kindness, and compassion for them. Paul said in Romans 2:4, God’s kindness is meant to lead us to repentance. God offers kindness to every person. Kindness is goodness, gentleness, and uprightness.

Multiple Bible passages reveal this great love and kindness God has for us, aliens in foreign lands. Moses recorded in Leviticus 19:33-34, we are not to do a sojourner/alien wrong, but treat him/her as a native and love him as we do our own selves. Jeremiah recorded in Jeremiah 22:3, “Thus says the Lord, ‘Do justice and righteousness, and deliver from the hand of the oppressor him who has been robbed. And do no wrong or violence to the resident alien, the fatherless, and the widow, nor shed innocent blood in this place [Judah, the place of God, as is our hearts the place of God].’” David said it another way in Psalm 146:9. He said, “The Lord watches over the sojourner; He upholds the widow and the fatherless, but the way of the wicked He brings to ruin.” Throughout Deuteronomy, God commanded the Israelites to care for the widow, orphan, and alien. Consider Deuteronomy 1:16, 5:14, 10:18-19, 14:29, 16:14, 24:14, 24:17, 24:19-21, 26:12-13, 27:19, 29:10-12, and 31:12.

The New Testament gives emphasis, too, to loving all people. Jesus called them “neighbors.” In Mark 12:28-34, a Jewish scribe asked Jesus what is the greatest commandment. He told them what Moses taught the Israelites. He said, “To love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.” Jesus added the second greatest commandment, which sums up the last six of the Ten Commandments. He said, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Jesus said almost the same in Matthew 7:12 when he said, “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” (also found in Leviticus 19:18) [These last two remind us of the maxim of doing to others what you want them to do to you.] The writer of Hebrews, in Hebrews 13:2, taught, “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.” Jesus taught about taking care of injured and sick people we encounter with His teaching of the parable of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10. In Matthew 5:42, He taught to give to the beggar and not to refuse the one who needs to borrow from you. Additionally, Jesus taught His disciples before the chief priests arrested Him. He told them in Matthew 25:35-40,
Jesus said ‘For I was hungry, and you gave me something to eat. I was thirsty, and you gave me something to drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me in; naked, and you clothed me. I was sick, and you visited me. I was in prison, and you came to me. ‘then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry, and feed you, or thirst, and give you something to drink? And when did we see you a stranger, and invite you in, or naked, and clothe you? When did we see you sick, or in prison, and come to you?’ The King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of mine, even to the least of them, you did it to me.’
Jesus told His followers if you love Me you will keep My commandments (John 14:15). In our own power, we fail Jesus’ command. Yet, as believers in Jesus Christ, He gives us His Holy Spirit to encourage, teach, and empower us to obey Him. That comes through the gifts of the Spirit, of which the fruit are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).

Whether Christian or not, God’s natural and written Laws, and the laws of right and wrong instilled by God in our consciences (Romans 1-2) should lead us to care for aliens. We have the God-given capacity for compassion, love, and care. Each of us knows within our being we should help the aliens/refugees. Our own idea of help often leads us to require the refugee to acculturate to their adopted country, our country. Though God wants all people to come to a saving knowledge of Him, He did not force the sojourners/aliens of the Old Testament to become Jews before being helped by the Jews. His example of care should lead us to care for the refugee whether or not he or she is from our faith or celebrates our holidays. God commanded the Jews to take care of the alien, orphan, and widow. He wants none of His creation to suffer and commands us to care for them. That does not mean demanding they acculturate.

Instead, we as the hosts should make them welcome, develop a relationship with them, open our hearts to them, and assist them. We should learn from them–culture, religion, family, language, customs, interests, and special days of celebration. When we learn about them, we build relationships. As these relationships grow, refugees are no longer “them”, but a part of “us.” We have a heart for them. They care for us. We build bridges. It’s like when a man and woman marry. They each come from different backgrounds–special days, ways to celebrate common holidays, etc., but this newly formed family begins to accept each background and each spouse decides what is most important for each other and, out of love for the other person, he and she adds the special days and ways of the spouse into his/her life so they become one. They celebrate together because they care for each other. They celebrate together because they understand why this occasion is special and important for the spouse. The husband and wife become interdependent-interwoven.


This marriage of cultures is the ultimate example of how living with refugees should be. It is no longer a “them” versus “us” scenario, but a “we” communal life that is woven together. It is a “we” sharing in the joys and pains, triumphs and defeats, and common life together because we become knitted together. This starts with our head choosing to understand and help, and moves to the heart accepting and living-communing with new members in the community-with and in the extended “family”. How we do this is through intentional ministering/helping. Let the refugee tell you his/her need and begin there. But don’t stop there. Consider your own heart and mind, and determine your own need so you can accept the refugee. You become a woven fabric of warp and weft that makes you stronger and interdependent; it makes you and your community more colorful. One without the other is weak, but together, they build and hold the community up; they make it stronger.

Ways to Help Refugees

Though not inclusive, the below list includes ways to help refugees and asylum-seekers. These ideas come from multiple people who have spoken with, listened to, lived with, and assisted their new friends.

·         English as a Second Language courses
·         Skills training courses–metal work, sewing, computers, housekeeping, bookkeeping, etc.
·         Testing and helping refugees to translate and transfer their current certifications from their home countries to their adopted home country
·         Legal Aid–asylum documents, passports, birth certificates, food stamps, government aid, UNHCR assistance
·         Transportation
·         Teaching how to write resumes/CVs and how to seek and interview for a job
·         Medical clinics–HIV/AIDS and family planning, regular medical issues, vaccinations, counseling for traumas
·         Help to get children into school, including testing to determine which grade level each child should enter, finding scholarships for college-age children
·         Finding homes–apartments, communal housing, buying old motels and converting them to refugee communities, tents, shacks, etc.
·         Feeding programs and food assistance
·         Garden plots sown from vacant plots of land to assist with feeding refugees and providing an income for their families
·         Spiritual counseling and teaching


Only one of these activities is obviously spiritual; any person can help with the rest. Still, if one has a relationship with the Lord, each of these activities/ministries come from the spiritual act of obedience to God to care for the alien, orphan and widow, and to love your neighbor. Whether you are a Christian or not, within each person is a heart that seeks relationship and has love. Taking care of refugees from all nations is doing just that, being in relationship, loving, and taking care of their fellow human being, their neighbor. 

Concluding Thoughts


The golden rule says, do unto others as you want them to do for you. Put yourself in their place. If you had to run for your life to another country, what would you want? Would you want to be helped or be yelled at, threatened, and left to fend for yourself? I encourage you to listen to your heart and to God. Join people who come to your country and be in relationship with them. Be warp to their weft. Become strong together, caring for each other, interdependent. Incorporate into your life some of their ways. Understand their culture. Love them for who they are, as God loves each of you. Just as you are no longer aliens, but a part of God’s household (Ephesians 2:13-19), consider them your neighbors and family, not aliens. Maybe in the process of living with and loving them, they will no longer be aliens, but become a part of the family of God, too.
 

But now in Christ Jesus you who formerly were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For He Himself is our peace, who made both groups into one and broke down the barrier of the dividing wall, by abolishing in His flesh the enmity, which is the Law of commandments contained in ordinances, so that in Himself He might make the two into one new man, thus establishing peace, and might reconcile them both in one body to God through the cross, by it having put to death the enmity. AND HE CAME AND PREACHED PEACE TO YOU WHO WERE FAR AWAY, AND PEACE TO THOSE WHO WERE NEAR; for through Him we both have our access in one Spirit to the Father. So, then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints, and are of God’s household, having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus Himself being the corner stone, in whom the whole building, being fitted together, is growing into a holy temple in the Lord, in whom you also are being built together into a dwelling of God in the Spirit. –Ephesians 2:13-22